Before you read any further, know that I’ve never officially
been diagnosed with depression, nor do I think I have it and that’s not what
this post is about. I fully believe one of the bravest things you can do if you
do suffer from clinically diagnosed depression is to find a good medication
that works for you and a support network of people to stand with you. You are
amazing. Utterly amazing. To smile, or even get out of bed, when you feel that
way every day is an incredible achievement.
I know, because there are days when I walk into its cloud
and can’t find my way out. Not alone anyway. The world seems suddenly darker,
completely devoid of any joy, my hope goes missing and I’m left crying over
spilt milk (and a thousand other inconsequential things) and wondering how on
earth I’m going to make it through this day, let alone a lifetime of feeling
like this…
I hate it, I really do. I hate that I feel that way. I hate
that I can’t do anything about it. I hate it because I know what I’m feeling
isn’t real, yet I can’t make it go away. Somewhere deep inside me, I know there
is hope, despite not seeing it. I know there is joy, despite not feeling it.
And I know I love my life/family/job/friends, even though I can’t at that
moment say why. I also know it will eventually pass, though that doesn’t help
in the moment either.
I hate it because, more often than not, I know when it’s
going to hit me. It’s almost always one of two times – when I’m super tired, or
when I’ve just accomplished/done something big. It’s predictable. Kind of like
being in a simulation. I see what’s happening, feel what’s happening and know
it’s not reality. Yet I can’t get out. I can’t make the simulation stop.
I’ve tried lots of things to break myself out of the cloud.
Distraction, watching movies, exercising, sleeping, pleading with God to take
it away, crying, even eating chocolate, since I heard somewhere once that helped. They all helped, a little (except the crying which is therapeutic at
the time but just leaves me with a nauseating migraine!). None of them took it
away.
But the last few times it’s hit, I’ve turned to something
else – music. Or, more specifically, praise songs.
The first time, it was out of desperation. I’d never felt so
down before and was utterly terrified of the darkness I felt. I went and hid in
my room and cried, begging God to take away the hopelessness I was feeling. A
song came into my head, one I’d learnt as a four-year-old at Sunday school. It
had a whole four lines – and three of them were the same.
God is so good. God is
so good. God is so good. He’s so good to me.
I forced myself to sing it, knowing it was true even if I
didn’t feel like it at that point. It felt so ridiculously fake, like I was
putting on a façade, even for God. But I made myself keep singing anyway. I
lost track of how many times I sang it as I stood in that room, but suddenly I
realised it wasn’t forced anymore. I kept singing not in fear but in absolute
gratitude for this God who truly was good. And, as I kept singing that song and
other praise songs which bubbled up alongside it, the depression slowly
disappeared.
Music, praising God, has pulled me out of that cloud more
than once now.
The idea of praising God in the tough times isn’t a new
thing for me. Just off the top of my head, I can think of at least five songs
and a few sermons I’ve heard about praising God in the tough times. But I’ve
always thought it had to be something you felt, that there was no point in
pretending for God. Sure, sing when you’re down, but make sure you mean it and
if you can’t – if it’s not honest – don’t bother. God knows you don’t mean it.
I’m starting to think I missed the point.
I’ve come to realise it takes a special kind of faith to
praise God when you don’t feel like it. A faith that’s no less real, and no
less valued by God. Perhaps he even values it more. Because it is real. In praising God, we take the
focus off ourselves and put it back where it was always supposed to be. On Him.
I have a nice list now of songs I turn to when I start
feeling my world turning black – and, no surprise, they’re all about God, his
goodness and who he is, not me. I
can’t always sing them. Sometimes, I’m crying too hard or just too angry –
either at God or myself – to sing. But those are the times when I just let them
play on repeat. Over and over. Let God’s goodness wash over me until I can start to sing along. Take the focus
off me and put it back where it should have been in the first place.
One of my favourites is ‘I Am’, by Mark Schultz. It’s an
entire song full of reminders of who God is.
“I am the One who
walked on water, the risen Son of God, the Healer of the broken, your Saviour
and Redeemer, Beginning and the End…”
It’s powerful in its simplicity. Name after name of who God
is and what he has done. For us.
Others on my list are:
·
He will Carry Me (Mark Schultz – um, my favourite singer for a reason… so many of
his songs focus on God and his absolute goodness to us)
·
God is so
Good (no idea who wrote this one, sorry)
To be honest, I usually just pick one and play it on repeat
until it sinks in so the list isn’t actually that long, but I’m sure I’ll add
more to it as time goes on.
There’s one more song I love, though it’s not on that list
because it’s more of a challenge to me than an encouragement. It’s called, ‘God Wants to Hear You Sing’ and
there’s a line in it which pretty much sums up this entire post (yeah, sorry,
you could have just skipped to the end!). It’s simply this:
“Let’s prove that we can trust Him, come what may.”
Sing, praise, worship God, even when you don’t feel like it
– especially then – because that’s when you, and He, need it most.
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